“You had to show your face in a store and actually lay a magazine out or a video … adults visit X-rated sites regularly, spending an estimated .5 billion annually.
and pay money.” But now, three A’s — accessibility, affordability and anonymity — make porn easily available even to folks who would never subscribe to magazine or set foot in an adult video store, Bentley said. But much of the pornographic content online can be accessed for free. Beyond that, many hotels sell adult movies — in discreet fashion — to their overnight guests.
Many other times, he’d wait until his wife, Holly, fell asleep.
Then he’d go into another room and enjoy the rush as sexual fantasies filled his mind.
To everybody else, Steve seemed like the perfect husband: He was a respected youth minister.
When the couple adopted two children and later welcomed two biological children, Steve helped with the housework and bathed the children.
Yet, Holly couldn’t help but feel an emotional distance, a lack of intimacy, “just this whole part of Steve that I couldn’t get to,” she said.
“We’ve hardly scratched the surface of the issue,” Halstead said.
Without fail, though, the high gave way to a low, and he’d fall into a pit of depression and regret.
He’d wonder how he— a Christian college graduate, a husband and father of four, an elder’s son, the grandson of preachers — could be trapped in such a ridiculous cycle of sin.
“Of course, a big part of it is because it’s such a hidden thing.
It’s almost come to the point where I’m not surprised anymore when a man — whether a minister or other church leader — says they’ve struggled with it or are struggling with it.” As Marnie Ferree puts it, “Pornography is the drug of choice among Christians.” For many years, the daughter of a minister struggled herself with promiscuity and extramarital affairs.