She suggests a 90-day “detox” from the relationship and its ending.“No dating, no sex, just quality time with oneself to process, heal and rebuild emotionally, “ she says.
“Reconnect with friends and family you haven’t seen because you were busy in the relationship, get back into the gym, read, study and attend seminars.
I realize it isn’t fun, but there’s really only one way through, and that is to feel the grief before moving on. If you are fresh out of a breakup, this isn’t possible. For a solid recovery, I recommend my clients take steps to rebuild confidence which can include any of the following: pampering, exercising or hiring a personal trainer, changing your hairstyle, etc.
This way, when you’re ready to meet new singles, you will feel confident — a quality that both genders seek. You won’t gain strength that comes from being on your own.
” Do you have to get over him/her before you start dating again, or should you find a new date as quickly as possible?It could be that you’re relieved the ex is in a new relationship if you did the breaking up because your guilt is assuaged and you can feel freer to move on.More often, however, you’ll feel upset when your ex finds another person, says New York psychiatrist Gail Saltz, author of “The Power of Different.”“You often feel jealous, finding that someone else wants your ex,” she says.If your tendency is to jump into a new relationship as quickly as possible, I suggest you try a new approach.Allow yourself time to heal and regain confidence so you can connect at the heart level with the right person for you.